submitted by Katie Starrantino, LCSW, M.Ed,
Perhaps you’ve heard the term “perfectionism,” the idea that anything short of perfect is a failure.
When it comes to a New Year’s resolution, a perfectionist is likely to set an incredibly challenging goal that will be nearly impossible to achieve.
If you find yourself setting impractical goals and then feeling devastated when you are unable to achieve them, read on and learn three ways to make this year’s resolution stick.
Choose a measurable goal: Instead of choosing a resolution like, “I will read more this year,” change the verbiage to, “I will read one new book a month.”
You can get more specific by scheduling time for this goal, such as, “I will read for one hour each Sunday before bed.”
Make your goals work for you: Now, you’ve set a goal to read more frequently, and you intend to read before bed each Sunday.
How can you make this goal work for you?
Make certain that the book of your choosing is on your nightstand or pillow. This will not only serve as a reminder but will also make the goal easier to continue with.
Chose a goal that aligns with your values: The goal to read more is an admirable one – but what if you generally spend Sundays with your family?
Will you want to leave a family event earlier in order to get home in time to read?
Your values are important and help make you who you are. There is room for goals that line up perfectly with what you value.
Finally, remember to be kind to yourself.
It is okay to slip up when it comes to resolutions and goals. You can resume whenever you feel ready.
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PHOTO CAP: Is perfectionism running your New Year goals?