submitted by Jason “Oz” Oszczakiewicz, Owner/Supervisor, Varcoe-Thomas Funeral Home of Doylestown, Inc.
Delivering a eulogy for a family member or friend is a wonderful way to participate in a funeral or memorial service. It provides an opportunity to acknowledge the importance of a life once lived, and remind survivors of the memories and legacy left behind.
When writing a eulogy one needs to focus on the life and memories of the deceased and not to focus on the nerves or concerns of the person writing or delivering the eulogy. Spending time with family members and friends and writing down memorable stories and sayings about a loved one will assist in preparing the eulogy. Brainstorming allows the person delivering the eulogy to write down any ideas, information, perspectives, music and food associated with the person to provide mental images of a loved one. Developing a theme for the eulogy allows one to also tie together those stories, facts and images into a unified idea.
Once the eulogist gathers information and has a theme in mind they will need to weave the information into some type of order. Remember not to use fancy or unfamiliar language and keep the information flowing like a normal conversation. This is not the time to ‘set the record straight’ on any unresolved issues or familial problems. Take time to edit the eulogy so it makes sense and sticks to the theme.
Finally, take the time to practice the eulogy in your mind as well as reading it aloud like standing in front of an audience. Be sure not to make it too long or short and gauge the length of the eulogy between 5-10 minutes. Going over a specific period of time may lose the audience and people will not be engaged by the information or stories that are being conveyed. Make sure you have a copy of the eulogy and speak slowly and clearly so everyone may share in a true remembrance of a life once lived.