Submitted by Karen Ulmer Pendergast, Esquire, Ulmer Law, ulmerlaw.com
Oftentimes it is easier to deny that things have come to the point where a divorce is inevitable. While it may feel easier to pretend that everything is fine, it is not often the wisest course of action to continue to ignore what is happening. Being prepared for the divorce and the changes that come with it is essential no matter how difficult or how painful it may be to face reality.
One first course of action that you should take when divorce seems like it may become your reality is to meet with a divorce attorney to learn what you can expect legally in the days and years ahead. Most divorce attorneys provide a consultation either for free or for a low fee.
Many people do not realize that there is alimony in Pennsylvania. Not only does the parent who does not have the children the majority of the time have to pay child support, if they earn more than their spouse they will also most likely have to pay alimony. In Pennsylvania it is awarded unless the spouse remarries or lives with someone of the opposite sex, but the length is based on the length of the marriage. In addition, many divorcing couples do not realize that the retirement plan of their spouse is something that they are both entitled to in a divorce. Assets accumulated during the marriage are all considered regardless of how they are titled or if they are just in one person’s name.
When you believe that a divorce may be on the horizon, you should contact an attorney even if you are not ready to hire one. Being prepared and knowing what to expect is the smartest decision you can make.